I had originally planned to blog about my need to stay mentally sharp but was listening to Elliot in the morning on DC101 while driving to work and there was a much more interesting topic. Jealousy.
So, they were talking about some guy named Desi and I have no idea what the topic really was because I kind of half listen to talk radio unless something is really funny. I figured out that this guy had some sort of extramarital affair. I don't know much else about this story but I know the guy is in jail. So maybe his wife had the affair and he killed someone? Who knows but its not an unusual story, right?
A listener had e-mailed Elliott and he read her letter on the air this morning. Her story went something like this: She was married. She suspected her husband of having an affair. He denied it. Later she confirmed the truth. He ended the affair. He started the affair again. She kicked him out. He came back home and wanted to work on the marriage. He started the affair again. He eventually left her because the other woman gave him an ultimatum. The other woman left him.
This really isn't an unusual story in my book. You read about this sort of thing all the time... and if it was a Lifetime movie, it would have involved spousal abuse and murder. The listener referred to the other woman as a "whore" and said that she understood that guy Desi's viewpoint because jealousy can make you do crazy things. She said she acted completely out of character by checking his phone, his e-mail, etc.
Now, at this point - you're probably thinking, "I would have left him." And maybe you even thought "dumbass" like I did. But I ask - has jealousy ever driven you to do crazy things? If you say no, you're a dirty liar because I know that I have acted like a complete fool at times when I've suspected foul play from a significant other. One time, in high school, when I suspected my boyfriend of cheating... I looked at his caller id, made note of the repeated number... called it and confirmed it. What did I do? I took a baseball bat to his house and tore up his room (he was too swift to receive a body shot). Nobody makes an ass out of me!
But seriously - what really blew my mind was the lady who referred to the other woman as a whore. Is that really fair? Why do women do this? Why do women always blame the other woman when their significant other strays? I think a lot of it definitely has to do with jealousy. When your s.o. messes around with someone else, you can't help but compare yourself to the other person. Its even worse when the other person is not very cute (believe me - its a huge blow to the ego).
So I ask - has jealousy ever driven you to do something crazy? Act out of character? I admitted something embarrassing... now share your stories!
3 comments:
I am a EITM freak. The story of Desi and his wife: Desi was the mascot for the Capitals (hockey just in case people don't know). This story was on Dr. Phil and there's an update I think next week or something.
His wife had an affair awhile ago, and since then his crazy behavior has become even more extreme. It was bad before the affair but got even worse. He would turn the heat up in the house to like 90 while she's sleeping so that she'd need to take off her clothes and then he'd video tape her sleeping naked. CREEPO! She had ended the affair but he just kept getting worse. He'd call every guy at her work to tell him to never speak to his wife, he'd go online to see what she had viewed. He constantly taped her, followed her, wouldn't allow her to talk to her family/friends, etc.
As a last resort, she tried to get him help with Dr. Phil - didn't work. She finally filed for divorce and got a restraining order against him. He violated it and is now in jail.
I think his situation goes a little beyond the definition of jealousy ha!
I hate the term "significant other". Your a boyfriend, girlfriend, spouse, husband, wife, fiance. Are you really an 'other'? Come on now!
And what the hell's up with taking a baseball bat to a guy's stuff? I didn't take you to be a violent nut. Next time, just follow the instructions in Carrie Underwood's song.
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