Have I mentioned that being a bridesmaid sucks balls? Ever since this whole process has started, I have found myself apologizing profusely to my own bridesmaids about everything they did for me. I think I was pretty laid back and thankfully the brides that I am a bridesmaid for are also laid back but this whole coordinating wedding related parties is a pain in my ass.
Btw - this is a long post filled with nothing but complaints. If you don't want to read it, I suggest you stop now. If you keep reading, don't say I didn't warn you!
Where do I even begin? We'll talk about Bride 1 and Bride 2. Bride 1 is getting married before Bride 2. Both brides are awesomely laid back and fabulous. There have been zero bridezilla moments and I love them both to death. Both Bride 1 and Bride 2, however, have other people involved in their weddings that I want to f'n strangle.
I'll start with the saga of Bride 1. Bride 1's maid of honor is not nearly as much of a planner as I am and I don't fault her for that. I just like to get shit planned and not have to worry about it. She had e-mailed me a couple of months ago regarding Bride 1's shower and bachelorette party citing that she wanted to get something out there so people could coordinate their summer vacations around the dates. Smart move, I thought. I responded to her and said that I was pretty open in August but that whatever dates she chose, they'd have to be SOLIDIFIED because I'm a maid of honor for Bride 2 and a lot of the dates will overlap. I needed to start planning stuff for Bride 2. MOH of Bride 1 said she understood.
I know MOH of Bride 1 is having some difficulty coordinating stuff with the other bridesmaids so I'm always sure to be as helpful as possible. MOH-1 said she's in school and busy and blah blah blah. Honey - I'm right there with ya.
Now here is the part where I complain about MOH-1. We picked a date for Bride 1's shower. I wrote it down and coordinated all other wedding related activities for Bride 1 around that date. The rest of my weekends in the summer are also booking up fast. So what did MOH-1 do? She f'n booked a European vacation during the date of the shower. Yarg! So she scrambled to move the shower up and I had to jumble around my schedule and cancel plans because she went and booked a vacation. I hate, and I mean HATE, when people don't respect my time.
Now onto the saga of Bride 2. There has been some changes with the bridal party but I'm happy to report that the new addition is amazing. I think I'd die without this bridesmaid because the other one? Yeah - she doesn't have e-mail. What 20-something year old person does not have e-mail? How do you even survive? She does have MySpace and Facebook but doesn't quite understand the logistics of e-mail. Explain that to me please because I just don't get it. So let's just say she's been as helpful as cat poop on a kitchen floor.
The mother of Bride 2 is a super sweet lady but she's also driving me bonkers. What started off as nice and simple shower planning has turned into her trying to take full control and shut out everyone involved (including the new mother-in-law). I didn't realize being a maid of honor meant I had to play referee. Oy!
Bride 1 and Bride 2, I love you girls dearly but you definitely owe me a drink or two when all is said and done! :-)
I've been trying very hard to keep my cool throughout this whole process but I think I just realized that I don't play well with others. When things are being planned and things have been decided upon and set in motion... don't go changing things on me.
Btw - for anyone I know reading this and potentially getting offended by the fact that I'm getting so bent out of shape for what seems like trivial things... I'm just venting. Give me a day (and perhaps a few cocktails) and I'll get over it.
And done. For all the bridesmaids out there - how do you handle this sort of coordination and keep your cool? I need help.
*Update! I just got off the phone with what sounded like a crying mother of the bride regarding the shower. How do I get myself into these situations? I hate hurting people's feelings!
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I've only been in my wedding and my sister's wedding. Thankfully everyone was a gem :) It is frustrating to have to go through all of that though. I wish people would put aside their pettiness for the sake of the bride though. I mean it's all about her, not them.
Wow, those are some crazy happenings! WHO DOESN'T HAVE EMAIL??? How do you even get a MySpace or a Facebook account without email??
I'm the maid of honor for my good friend who just got engaged, and my entire purpose is to play referee and keep her mom not-crazy.
I am the planner, but everyone knows that, so we've never had an issue - There are two other girls who also plan stuff, and between the three of us, we get shit done.
Cat poop on a kitchen floor. Fucking priceless.
HAHAHA…Twinks that is too funny…
Quick question about BM #2 w/ no e-mail and part of major internet social networks. You have to have an e-mail to be part of MySpace and FB. That makes no sense! She just doesn’t want to do shit and she needs to be expelled!
Yeah I know you have OCD and that’s why I just let you take over and do what I’m told. LOL I don’t mind though. If I were to ever get married (when hell freezes over), would you consider coordinating….EVERYTHING?! Lol…I know both showers will be impeccable because you’re involved. I’m sure the brides appreciate everything.
I hear ya, oh but I do...
This past weekend? My brother's wedding. Me? A bridesmaid.
Now, all the girls/women/mothers/brides/bridesmaids and various combinations thereof are absolutely wonderful... But? Trying to coordinate everyone and everything? A nightmare. And I didn't even do most (any?) of it... GAH. So, yeah, I hear ya. Vent away!
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