The Mr and I were chatting about the various couples we know and it got me wondering, "Do birds of a feather flock together" or is the old adage of "opposites attract" really true?
When I think about The Mr and me, I'd say (much to my chagrin) that we fall into the birds of a feather category. As much as I think he's a total nerd (seriously - could Spike TV play anymore Star Wars movies?! What the heck is going on here? I can't take any more nerdiness!), our overall interests are pretty similar.
We both like photography. Although I like to take pretty and interesting pictures and The Mr is into the technical aspect of how to take the pretty and interesting pictures.
We both like to be active. Although I moderately work out at the gym and The Mr still goes hard with that lame-o P90x workout and can run about 3 times as fast as I can and for much longer.
We both like dogs. Although I like to just cuddle and play with them and The Mr is the one who gets up every morning to let them out and feed them. No wonder they seem to be much more upset when he leaves the house than when I do. Hmph.
We both like to travel. This one took some time for me to get used to. I liked the idea of traveling but hated the physical act of traveling. I still do but it comes so easily to The Mr that he kind of pushes me through it. But since we both love to see new places and he doesn't mind traveling a long distance to get there (therefore helping me to deal with it), it works out quite nicely.
We both like to eat interesting food. Some might argue that I no longer eat interesting food because I'm a vegetarian but I beg to differ. I am now forced to find even MORE interesting food that doesn't involve meat. So there. Keep your plain cheeseburger - I'm trying fabulous curry dishes. The Mr and I love to try new restaurants and the more exotic the food, the better.
We both have similar taste in décor. I don't have much else to say about this but it makes furniture, paint color and other home décor shopping a breeze.
We both love HGTV!
We like a lot of the same television shows. I wish I could say all but I just can't get on board with Heroes and he'd rather hit his jacked up toe with a hammer than watch any of the wedding shows I still DVR. Don't judge me, it's a sickness.
We both like movies. This is kind of a stupid one to write because really… who doesn't like movies? But I don't think you guys understand… I'm a Netflix junkie. This should probably be amended to say "The Mr supports my bizarre obsession with exercising our Netflix membership to its full capacity".
We both have a similar sense of humor. We think we're the funniest people we know.
And lastly - we both have a ridiculous sweet tooth. It's awesome to have someone who will always split a dessert with me.
So we have a pretty decent list of things we have in common. I'm sure there are more important items I could have listed like prioritization of family, similar budgetary viewpoints, education, etc. but that's boring.
Some things that we definitely do NOT have in common:
- His love of Star Wars. I just don't get it.
- His competitive sportiness. I don't know what to call it. He grew up playing sports and I didn't therefore I lack all coordination and desire to win when it comes to sports.
- His ability to fall asleep anywhere. How does he do this? It takes me forever to fall asleep in our own bed let alone on a plane… that could plummet to the ground and kill me. And don't even get me started on how uncomfortable the seats are…
- His inability to stand up to his family. We have completely opposite views about this and I think it has more to do with how we were raised.
- He doesn't read anything longer than a magazine article. I love to read. I am an avid reader. He hates it. I spent a portion of our honeymoon reading books out loud to him. I'm not even kidding.
- He'd rather spend his money on techy gadgets and I'd rather buy clothes and accessories.
Despite our differences, I think we still fall into the birds of a feather category.
We've seen a lot of couples that fall into the opposites attract category and sometimes I don't understand it. I think if we were complete opposites, he'd drive me insane. It's nice to have someone who shares my interests because if I couldn't get him to want to walk the dogs with me or travel with me… or even split desserts with me, I'd probably be a morbidly obese person with unhealthy dogs that never leaves Baltimore.
So what category do you and your significant other fall in? Why do you think it works for you?
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While lamenting the fact that the National Weather service has now named a hurricane Bertha twice in the past 2 years my husband and at the same exact moment exclaimed "what? no one thought Bernadette was a cool enough name for a hurricane?"
It's truly disgusting how in sync we are :)
We definitely fall more into the "birds of a feather" category, but have enough differences to keep things interesting :)
We have very similar interests and like to do very similar activities. Spening habits are about the same as well - and we have very similar priorities and values. However, we are very different in some ways. I'm a planner/organizer, he's more of a fly by the seat of his pants kind of guy. I'm hyper and anxious, he's calm and relaxed (at least most of the time). I'm cheesy romantic - he's...hmmm...not. I'm somewhat spiritual - him, not so much. But while I used to think of these things as being opposite, I now think these differences balance us out. When I'm hyper and anxious - he calms me down. My strengths are his weaknesses, and vice versa. It's good!
When people first meet Brent, they tend to comment on how different we are. He's quite quiet, especially around people he doesn't know, while I'm really outgoing and social. But then once they get to know him, they TOTALLY see how alike we are.
Ultimately I'd say we're birds of a feather, but we definitely have our different approaches to life. :)
We tend to agree on the basic ideas of life; morals, ethics, etc. We have similar senses of humor, but really are very different. I am uber social and need that. Him, not so much. I am a talker. To everyone. He is very math / sciences and I am very verbal / social. Our degrees are worlds apart, him Fisheries, me Advertising. So I would say that we are a mix of both. On the important things, we are very similar. On the little things, we are so different. Example, the hanging of pictures up the steps.
On some things, we are very different. But for the majority of stuff, we are similar - or at least complimentary... :)
S. and I were complete opposites and while I thought it worked for a good 6+ years, in the end it actually drove us apart!
When I first ever met jon I thought he was the complete opposite as me (the hippie hair may have been my clue)...but through the "wooing" process and into now I think we are really kind of birds of a feather! But I also agree with KT too, because I am more high strung, shall we say, and jon's totally laid back.
hmm, makes for an interesting case!?
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